Car Monologue – Topic “A charge to Fathers – sexual assault what’s your role” October 19, 2017 at 12:32 p.m.
I am Jacqueline Andrade your marriage sex and relationship guru and I have the privilege and the honor to teach women how to have amazing sex every time. It is 12:30ish and it is time for our talk. So, thank you guys for tuning in. I am going to not be very long as usual as I promised I would not be. I just wanted to talk to fathers and men about the role in sexual abuse. So, as most of you know about Harvey Weinstein and all that is in the news and the media about sexual abuse and how he abused several women by abusing his power and authority over them requiring them and in some cases raping women and taking advantage of them because of his power and authority. So yesterday, we talked about a woman’s role/a mother’s role in sexual abuse and making sure that we raise men and boys to be gentle men and boys.
So, today, I wanted to talk to the fathers about your role in raising men that respect women. Because we all have a role, we all play a part in society in making sure that we live in a safe environment and a free environment where we can express and be who we want to be without feeling the need that we will be attacked. I think it was Gabrielle Union the other day said that someone said that women the way they dress can lure a man into wanting them or sexually abusing them. That’s the craziest thing. A woman should be able to wear whatever she wants to wear without a man being a predator and assaulting her. So, I don’t want to send that message that what you wear or don’t wear. So, if you wear jeans and sneakers you are safer against a sexual assault than someone who wears a mini skirt and a halter top. Like, it should not be. We should be respected as women simply because we are people.
Bottom line – it should not be what you wear. My charge today for men is to teach your boys how to be men. And, how to exhibit self-control. Sexual abuse on anybody is “NEVER ok”. Teach your boys that “No” means “No”. Teach your boys how to treat women and if you yourself don’t know how to treat a woman, “Read A Book”. Watch inspirational tapes of men who are doing this thing who know what it means to be a good father, what it means to be a good provider, a good leader, a man of self-control. Read a Book, if you don’t know. No longer can we use the excuse, oh my dad didn’t teach me. Or, my dad’s dad didn’t teach me, it’s just the way that it is. (Hey cousin) I don’t understand what that means. Change the way that it is. Generational curses, you be the one to change the curse. You be the one that say no I am going to teach my son about being a man. And, being a man means first and foremost you have to exhibit self-control. In your mind, in your body and in your loins, exhibit self-control. So, my charge to the fathers today, please be the man that our society needs you to be. Be the man that we as women look up to you to be and be the man that God has created you to be. A leader, strong, positive, influential and self-controlled. I hope this was helpful. Until tomorrow, this is Jacqueline Andrade your marriage sex and relationship guru. And, I pray that this day, you guys, you men will stand up and be accounted for and will teach your boys and our future generation of men how to have self-control and how to respect women. Thank you so much, until tomorrow. Have a Great Day!!!